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Yes, I went there, it’s about time we came from behind the palms of our hands, that we use to hide our shame when such issues come up. Now let’s talk about why women masturbation is actually good for you.

It could be described as the process of self-pleasuring that comes from contact with erogenous zones within the body. It’s supposed to be done by hand but in recent times, sex toys have been employed. No one woman is built the same way as the next, we all come with a different manual. Finding what suits you involves a lot of trial and error. It is estimated that around 60% of the world female population, have problems achieving sexual gratification. If you don’t get it right the first time, the seventh might be the charm, just don’t forget to have fun on the way.


Myths surrounding masturbation are based on religious, cultural and societal beliefs. It’s mostly associated with sin, shame, unbecoming of a lady and harmful to your health. All these lack merit when judging masturbation according to science. If you embark on a journey to learn how to self-pleasure, it’s important to maintain an open mind. Sometimes, people experience personal conflict about the process, it’s perfectly normal, but before you make up your mind here are some benefits of masturbation that you should consider before making up your mind.

  1. Stress relief. It’s a fact that experiencing sexual release reduces stress levels within the body. It causes the body to produce a hormone called oxytocin, which in turn lowers the cortisol level, a hormone that is produced when the body is under stress, especially in women who work long hours. Increased cortisol levels in the body are known to cause stress related diseases such as blood pressure, cancer, depression, etc

2. Better sleep. Vasopressin, a chemical associated with sleep is released when you achieve sexual satisfaction. A recent study by university of Michigan and Albright College, shows that people fall asleep faster after sex.


3. Improves reproductive health. When women reach orgasms, the cervix opens up to allow cervical mucus to flow. This contains friendly bacteria maintains a healthy female reproductive system.

4. Relieves or reduces the severity of cramps by exercising the cervical muscles.

5. Women reduce chances of involuntary urine leakage and uterine prolapse (weakening of the muscles and ligaments that hold the uterus) causing them to sag or slip from their normal position.

6. Exploration. You are the best person to know what works for you and what doesn’t. It’s only fair to know what you enjoy so that you can teach a partner how to help you get there. Some women expect men to know what they want without giving direction and this leads to a lot of disagreements and dissatisfaction when it comes to bedroom issues. They could easily be avoided by open communication.


7. Confidence. There is an uncanny sense of confidence that emanates from women who know themselves, they carry their heads high. Learning how your body works gives you a fresh perspective when it comes to choosing a suitable partner.

8. Strengthens relationships; it can act as a supplement for your sexual satisfaction. Masturbation can be done in the presence of a partner depending on the level of intimacy you have.

9. No STDs and unwanted pregnancies. Self-pleasure is the safest form of sex you can use to achieve satisfaction without worrying about certain side effects.

10. Advisable for those who choose to remain celibate. It reduces loneliness and the need for gratification from another person.

Here are some extra tips:

– When you choose to do it, do it the right way, set the tone, ambience, create a party for two but set it for one. Have candles and music. Don’t rush, allow yourself to feel and don’t be afraid to touch. Wash your hands before and after.


– There are no known health risks associated with masturbation. A lot of guilt is associated with it. Negative feelings can affect you and your well-being, seek therapy or talk to a friend about your concerns regarding sex and sexual shame. If you realise that you are overdoing it and neglecting your partner it is best to seek advice from a sexual therapist.