Managing Post Abuse: Listen to Yourself

Forgive Yourself

• To forgive is not to forget
• It is accepting what has happened, living your life now and making healthier choices in the future
• We all make mistakes
• Mistakes are simply lessons

Be Active

• Listening is more than being quiet
• When listening to others (or yourself!):
• • • • Be patient
      • Act on your promises
      • Let the speaker lead the conversation
      • Ask questions

Your Voice is Your Power

• You have the power to decide who and what you listen to
• Even in your own mind
• No one but YOU can take your power away

Trust your instincts

• Intuition is a form of intelligence
• Your brain keeps a lot of information and processes it even faster
• It constantly assesses your surroundings to see if it’s safe or not
• If you feel something is wrong, believe it; it means your unconscious brain has quickly spotted something is wrong
• If you sense trouble:
• • • • • Believe it
        • Ask for help
        • Walk away
        • Say no

Know what you need

• When you pay attention to your needs first, then you:
• • • • • • Stand up for yourself
          • Will be harder to pressure
          • Will know your own voice
          • Can make tough decisions

The world should listen

• Your voice matters. People who care for you will:
• Focus on your needs, not theirs
• Allow you to express yourself
• Act in your best interest

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